Tuesday, November 15, 2016

Humans of UAE

Humans of UAE
This happened way back in year 2000, our company secretary Merlin, she drove to bank for some official work, it was in the month of July at around 12 noon, July is pretty hot here in UAE, while coming back from bank she had a flat tyre, she pulled it on the yellow lane, came out of her car and was trying to fix it, she was all sweatting in that heat, while she was struggling to handle the situation, a big four wheel drive with full tinted glass and a two digit number plate, stopped ahead of her, a man came out of the driving seat came out and enquired the situation, she guessed, that must be the driver, he went back to his car and spoke to the person in the car, immediately the person in the car a local arab took the driving seat and man came to Merlin and asked for her address and keys for her car, as it was too hot outside and it was beyond her capacity to replace the flat tyre, she immediately hand over the keys to him, he instructed her to get into his car. The arab drove her to the office, she did not understand what's happening. After 2 hours the driver came to the office with her car which was fitted with a new tyre and a box of chocolate. She did not even knew who that arab was.

Saturday, May 28, 2016

My kind of heroine

My kind of heroine

Today 25th May 2016  Nisha passed her 10th board exam, scored 236 / 500.
So what's so great about getting 47.2 % in 10th board. Well, Nisha is 24 year old, so you say, that's even worse.

year 2013, Coimbatore, Isha Ashram, my wife Rani was volunteering at Isha Ashram, there she met Nisha Munavar. Nisha was introduced to Rani by one sadhavi, at that time they just communicated Hi Hello. Later that evening Rani again bumped into sadhavi, that time sadhavi told more about Nisha.

Year 2012 Nisha was a young happy go lucky girl, little did she know that her luck is going to turn upside down. She hails from a very poor family, her father was a daily wage worker, she was 20 years at that time and was engaged to her aunt's (father's sister) son and aunt's daughter was engaged to her brother. Because of her family's financial situation she had to stop her studies before her eighth exam and she was helping her family in daily chore. Both the family were in a festive mood as the marriage dates were near. Suddenly grief strikes the family, Nisha's brother meets a fatal accident, family is not yet recovered from the grave grief, her father is diagnosed with elephantiasis on the foot due to which he loses his  job. Whilst they were yet to recover from all these miseries, her aunt breaks her engagement and blames her for all the miseries in the family and calls her jinxed, her father also get influenced with his sister and calls Nisha Jinxed and stops all communication with her. Nisha also starts thinking that she is jinxed to the family and plans to end her life, she ties the duppata to the ceiling fan and other end to her neck and hangs, but life always have a different plan for you, the duppata tears of weight and she falls on the ground she is saved, but she suffers a severe damage on back of her neck which left a permanent  pain on back of her neck. Nisha was admitted to the hospital, where she was not accompanied by any member from her family.  This is where Sadhvi met her and came to know her story, thinking that she would attempt another suicide, she bring her to the Isha home as volunteer, thinking that she would get busy volunteering and would get out of the suicidal mood. This is where Rani met her.

Rani started spending time with Nisha and tried to explain her that life is much more than this, you never know what is in store for us, these are the testing times, we should find the motive for our life. She asked Rani whether she can accompany her back to Dubai and find some house maid work, as she wanted to get away from this environment. Rani explained her that as she is not properly  educated, getting passport and getting visa to Dubai would be difficult, Rani convinced her to complete her basic studies of minimum of 10th and agreed to sponsor her studies. Rani then went to her school and checked the procedure, school management said as she is 21 years, let her complete her 8th and we will make arrangement for to appear for 10 immediate after that. Nisha agreed for that. Rani made all the arrangement for her studies, went and all the way to Chennai to meet her parents to convince them to let her finish her basic studies, it took time but they finally agreed. Here I was thinking that she getting back to studies after 9 years, she might not cope up and drop out again, but did not discouraged them. Next year Nisha passed eighth decently, here I was, ok internal exam, no big deal, next year it will be 10th, she will not be able to clear that. Again Rani made all the arrangement for her 10th board preparation. Nisha worked hard, fought against all the odds, without any proper coaching, without much support.

Now tell me how much do you value this 236 out of 500. for me this 236 is much more than 500 out of 500. I am so glad that she proved me wrong and came victories.


she is my kind of heroine

Friday, May 13, 2016

So yesterday 12th May was Nurses day.

So yesterday 12th May was Nurses day.
This day is dedicated to the nurse we have at home, our very own Rani my wife, she is one nurse in true form, Sensitive, humble and hard working. Before our marriage she worked with private clinic and later with government hospital. Rani’s family was reasonably well off as far as financial is concern, she choose this profession not for the livelihood but for serving the society which was her passion.
I would like to share some of the incidents of Rani as nurse probably most of you might not know.
When she was working for the private clinic, one of the local leader’s son got hit by the ceiling fan’s blade on his skull from almost all the sides and he was bleeding badly, in an emergency situation she did the first aid and did the stitches as a good assistant to the doctor , next day the leader took his son to Chennai to a bigger hospital, after one month the leader came with a big box of sweets and told her that when he took his son to Chennai the doctor asked him who is the plastic surgeon who did the stitching, when he told it was done by a nurse from his village, doctors there could not believe that this clean work can be a nurse from a village.
When she was working for government hospital, these hospitals were highly affected by corruptions, staff won’t do any work without money, because of these many poor patients would not get right attentions, Rani and couple of her friends who were unaffected by this corruptions and were not dependent on the salary for their livelihood, would give out their salary to these poor patients so that they can in return pay to these staff and get the right medical attention. Rani would always carry extra tiffin so that she can give it to the needy patients.
Beyond hospital too her nursing nature never stopped. Once in Bangalore one big eagle was hit by something and fallen on the ground and was barely able to move, because of this some stray dogs were trying to attack on the eagle, when she saw this she attacked the stray dog to get away from the eagle and put her shawl on the eagle and bring that home and called the blue cross society, who promptly came and to took the eagle for treatment.
Year 2006 to 2012 we had very bad years as far as family health is concern, my mother-in-law was having dialysis and my son Raghav born with birth disorder, she was there like a rock solid and took care single handedly, if it was not her, my mother-in-law would have died much early and we could have lost our son, It was because of her care and proper attention my MIL lived 4 extra years and we could save our son.
This day is dedicated to Rani and nurses like Rani. I am glad (lucky) to be her husband, we are proud of you.

Tuesday, May 3, 2016

How I met my wife.

How I met my wife.

May 4th 2016 we will be celebrating our 15th anniversary.

But it all started way back in 1999, when I was enjoying my bachelorhood, that time I was around 34 years of age, but still I was not in hurry to get married, I was living in Abu Dhabi UAE.
I was having my independent flat but I always end up at Bobby's flat, his flat was shared by another two of his friend, I don't remember one flat mate's name the other was Anand Iyer and Bobby, still a very good friend, why I remember Anand  you will soon know. Anand and other were more of Hi Hello friend but were jolly good guys.

Anand was 24 years old but was very eager to get married, he use to keep an eye on Friday matrimonial column at Gulf News. It is normally a difficult task to find a 21-22 year girl at matrimonial column and that too of your same cast, just too difficult, but he use see an ad. of a Tamil girl but age was 31 years, he use to tease me, Ramesh this would be perfect match for you, why don't you call the given number, i always use to ignore him with a joke saying, just worry about yourself, I would love to die a bachelor. This went on for 4-5 weeks. One Friday when he again saw the ad. for a 31 year old Tamil girl in the matrimonial column, he took my mobile and secretly called the given number and gave it to me saying "Talk to the guy on the mobile, he is girl's brother" I did not wanted to be rude and cut the call, I did not had any choice and but to continue talk to the person on the phone, we exchanged family details, being Friday he (Dr. Rajan) wanted to come down to Abu Dhabi and meet me, I told him, not to be in a hurry and let's meet the coming Thursday at Dubai, as I would be coming there for some work, he agreed, we met and more details exchanged, we agreed to meet couple of more times and we met, this went on for around 2 months, in the mean time I left the job and came back to Nagpur for good 6 months, thinking that I will never return back to UAE, but as destiny would have it, I was back in UAE, this time in Dubai within 6 months, our previous meetings (me and Dr. Rajan) got abruptly ended, he couldn't call me as he did not had my India contact and I did not called him as thought that he was interested in me for his sister because I was in UAE, to a certain extent that was true.

I was back in Dubai in next 6 months, one fine day I gets a call from Dr. Rajan, first he shouted (friendly) at me that I did not informed him before going back to Nagpur, than he felt happy for me that I got a better job in Dubai, again we started meeting for coffees and teas, this went on for more than 6 months in the mean time he completely forgot why we started meeting. In the mean time my other Brother-in-law Kittu, called him and asked him, what happened to the guy, who you said that will be a good match for our sister, is he still there or should I look out for some other guy, when the call came, I was next to him, after cutting the call, he turns back to me and ask me  "I started meeting you for my  sister, right?" I said "Yes", he continued "There is a small issue, as you are from Nagpur, and you mentioned that you mostly speak Hindi at home, my mom wants to talk with you in Tamil" I said "I don't mind" he immediately connected to his mom and we spoke for at least 15 min. in Tamil, his mom was ok with my Tamil communication and gave a go ahead for me, you can say I passed the Tamil exam :) .

Dr. Rajan said that his sister Rani is coming to Dubai for shopping for his cousin's marriage, why don't you meet her at that time, we agreed, it was a very small meeting, we met on Thursday evening in full packed restaurant (Royal Garden) they had to put an extra table for us to sit, Rajan, Rani, Gracy and me, we exchanged some smiles and greetings, all I remember of Rani talking to me is she said "Podum" (Enough) when asked whether she needs anything else to eat.  After this brief meet they proceeded to their home, whilst they were on their way I called Rajan and asked him "You know that I am 35 years and not 25 years" he amusingly replied "Yes I do, why are you asking that" I said "your sister looks 21 and not 31" he just laughed, even today after 16 years Rani ask me "Ramesh, what did you ask Rananna after the meeting". Well the second hurdle cleared, Rani did not had any problem with me.

Rajan went to Nagpur and met my parents and spend some time over there, he was ok with my family and invited my family to his place. My mother was very happy, she said that she is going to their place with the preparation of  engagement, unless there is a grave problem, we are not going to reject the girl, morning we will see the girl, if everything goes fine, evening we will do the engagement, I said, I can't be there in such short notice, my mom replied, "you had seen the girl, you are ok with her, she had seen you, she is ok with you, we will do the engagement without you, make sure you are available for the marriage". As planed they saw her in morning and in the evening they did the engagement ceremony. I called her after the ceremony if everything is as per her wish, she is not been forced into this marriage, she replied, yes it's as per her wish, she is not been forced, after two months into the marriage she tease me that I should have asked that before the engagement ceremony.  

We got engaged on 11th of Feb 2001. I called her on 14h Feb. to wish her happy valentine's day, her reaction was "what is that" a couple of days later, India beat Zimbabwe in one day international, that was the first time in history that a team chased 300+ score and won, Kumble and Srinath played a fantastic inning, I called her and asked if she had seen that match, her reply was negative, that time I realized why I stayed bachelor this long and did not had any girlfriend. 

May 4th was set for our marriage, well, about the marriage ceremony, sometime later, all went on fine, now today we are celebrating our 15th anniversary.

Even Today, whenever I mess up, it is always Anand Iyer's fault. :) :) :) 

Thursday, April 28, 2016

New generation stand up comedians

These set of new generation stand up comedians will make Shakti Kapoor decent, and they go on to make fun of others. what are they up to.
 PATHETIC, VULGAR, NO RESPECT, INDECENT, 

Exaggeration is good for comedy, but then.... 
Tell me which girl walks like this in a club with high heals?


Who eats in a party like this?


Who sings the Title song of Prem Ratan Dhan Payo like this?


Who dances to title song of Prem Ratan Dhan Payo like this?


Who puts deo like this?


Who dances to DJ wale babu like this?

Monday, April 18, 2016

Screeeeech & Dhuuuub

Screeeeech & Dhuuuub

It was our initial days in Riyadh Saudi Arabia, we (me and Sachin) were still getting familiar to the newness of this place.

We came from a place, when an accident occurs, even if it is a very small one, first thing we see / hear is the person who involved in accident will leave their vehicle and scold each other, shout at each other if not settled with these, they will restore to fist fight, some time to an extent they can even restore to killing each other.

So that was our frame of mind, or you can say, that's how we picture it in our mind when we hear an accident.

We were living in villa which was on a lane at a small junction and our room was at first floor overlooking the junction. Diagonally opposite to our villa was another villa, which had a dense tree, which would create some darkness at the evening. We just came back from our work, having our cup of tea and were discussing what to cook for dinner, suddenly what we hear is big noise of screech and dhuub an accident, though we knew that as it was inside a lane, no major untoward accident must have happened, with an expectation of what I mentioned earlier, we jumped on to the window, we looked down the window at the junction.  What followed next was the most shocking thing (pleasant though). Two Arabs came out of their respective cars, first they greeted each other, checked for each other's well being and called for the police (though I don't remember how they called the police, because those days there were no mobile phones). Soon police came, got down his motor cycle, police too first greeted those Arabs and checked their well being and made a report and handed over to them and headed on his way, now these Arabs took their respective reports and hugged each other and greeted each other smiled and headed on their way.

That was so anti climax for us, but then we realized, that is how it should be.


Friday, February 19, 2016

किसी से मत कहना

किसी से मत कहना
बात उस वक़्त की है जब हमारे 12th के परीक्षा ख़त्म हो चुकी थी, हम कुछ फुरसत में थे। में किसी काम से दिल्ली गया हुआ था, लौटने को करीब 15 दिन लग गए।
यहाँ नागपुर में मेरे दोस्त K के साथ कुछ खास बात हुई जिसे उसने M और S के साथ share किया और कहा "किसी से मत कहना" जब में वापस नागपुर पहुंचा और ये खबर M और S को मिली तो वे मुझसे मिलने आये और K के बारे में विस्तार में बताया और कहा K ने बोला है "किसी से मत कहना"
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"बस तू बचगया था"

Saturday, February 13, 2016

12 Short stories

12 Short stories

1.  Once a 5 year old boy was standing barefooted in the shallow water of the ocean.

....He kept repeating the same sentence to the waves - "Even if you touch my feet a thousand times, I won't forgive you for taking my parents away."

2.  The lowly clerk was caught red handed for accepting bribe.

....Miles away, at home, his wife waited for her husband to bring the money for her daughter's cancer treatment.

3.  Hundreds cheered, clapped and applauded as he gave an announcement from his window.

....Never before had a CM's resignation received such a response.

4.  "Don't ask for the change. Bring the change"

....Said the bus conductor in a very annoyed tone.

5.  He grabbed her neck and smashed her head against the wall, screaming "You destroyed my life. You destroyed my life".

....The alcohol bottle broke in to tiney pieces, however leaving her smell on his clothes as a goodbye memory.

6.  One guy said to the other in a bar "Your mom is sooooo hot, I love her."

....The other said, "Dad, you have had too many drinks, let's go home".

7.  Love was within his grasp, all that was needed was a little courage.

....And a plan, to get rid of his wife.

8.  "People are always gonna stare, make it worth their while" Suggested the actress.

....Somewhere in the crowd, an acid attack victim was inspired.

9.  Today, her husband beat her again. She had got used to in now; and did not groan or complain.

....She simply got up and put the chessboard back, determined to beat him one day in the game he had mastered.

10. It's a boy, It's a boy!" he shouted coming out of the room.

...."I am never coming back to Thailand."

11.  "Everyone goes with the flow but the one who goes against the flow becomes someone remarkable in life."

....Before I could explain this to the traffic police, that guy issued me a challan.

12.  "Born to rich parents, this boy has some life", exclaimed the neighbors.

....Somewhere in heaven, three unborn sisters cried.



Friday, February 5, 2016

Verma Madam

Verma Madam In one of our whatsapp group we were talking about Verma madam, one of the most loved teacher of our time, I recollect a very beautiful incident of her. I was suffering from typhoid just before the 9th final exam, I recovered from the typhoid but was still very weak and was getting frequent vomiting. My mom went to see the school management, Verma madam was the vice principal at that time, though my mom went to see the principal Ghosh madam, because she was busy, my mom had to see Verma madam. My mom requested Verma madam if she can make some special arrangement, so that when I am giving my exam, I am not disturbance to others because of sickness. Verma madam as we all know the most humble and soft spoken teacher, she requested my mom to show my half yearly mark sheet, my mom was carrying that, and she produced it to her, after seen my mark sheet, she just smiled and said to my mom, look at his mark sheet 12/150 in maths, when he his health was ok, now when he is sick, what are you expecting from him, let him take rest, we will promote him to 10th, but make sure you put him in some tuition and guide him properly for 10th board exam. Best option was to put me under Verma madam's guidance. she did her best and I passed 10th board, in maths I scored 121/150. If it was not Verma Madam, I am sure I would not have passed 10th board. From 12/150 to 121/150 that was no less than miracle, and the miracle was done by Verma madam.

Wednesday, February 3, 2016

Career in Gulf, The Beginning.

Remembering when it all started. Exactly 23 years back.

Finally the day has come when I will be leaving for Saudi Arabia after exactly two months 3 Feb. 1993 night. I was suppose to fly on 3 Dec. 1992 but unfortunate incident of Babri Masjid happened and I had to wait in the burning Bombay, that's a different story, I will narrate it sometime later, today let's concentrate on the beginning of a new phase in my life. Travel to the Gulf.

I was very happy as well as very nervous. Happy because I always wanted to come to Gulf for the work, Nervous because, I did not had any idea about Saudi Arabia and N number of cheat stories of how people got cheated in pretext of getting jobs in Gulf, to make it worse whole lot of Hindu visas were been canceled after the Babri Masjid incident, we were few lucky people whose visas were not canceled.

On 3rd night I reached Bombay International airport. That was the first time I was about to travel in the flight. Gulf Air to Riyadh Via Abu Dhabi, around 3 hours break journey.

Coming from smaller place Nagpur, Bombay always fascinated me, big buildings, beaches, big roads, fast cars. I reached the International airport, if you remember the very old terminal, box building with nice arches, the departure was at the first floor and the road would directly lead to the first floor, I was quite impressed with that architecture. I reached a couple of hours ahead of the scheduled time, beginning of Feb. decent chillness was there in the air, before I was allowed enter the concourse I was roaming around outside, to keep myself warm I must have had 4-5 cups of tea. I reached the Immigration, double checked, triple checked all my documents before entering, there were lots of labor class passengers wandering around, looking somewhat confused state, Security guys after checking my papers, guided me towards the immigration counter handing the immigration forms, after filling my forms, I also helped filling the forms for 3-4 other passengers, between these labors I could see one decent face, who was approx of my age, looked much matured and composed, we exchanged a couple of smile whilst helping filling the forms, didn't knew that next two years every day I will be spending with this guy and he will become one of the best memories of my life, and I will be learning so many thing from him, meet Sachin Walwaker.

We were inside the flight and Sachin was seated next to me, we still did not exchanged conversation, just a smile.

We had a break journey at Abu Dhabi, flight was suppose to take off after 3 hours, we were allowed to roam around at the duty free area, ok duty free was new concept for me at that time. Coming from Bombay airport which was very flat but quite functional airport to Abu Dhabi airport, I was about to get my first shock which would be followed by shock after shock for next 7-10 days. BTW I am talking about pleasant shocks. Yeah! I enter the duty free area of Abu Dhabi airport, Cute little but beautiful area, I was amazed to see such a beautiful architecture, I was awed. Just 8 terminals, a central column from the center spreading to the circumference, with two colored hexagons spreading blue and white, from the centre small blue hexagons traveling towards circumference with increasing size and from circumference white small hexagons traveling towards centre with increasing size, beautifully done. Sparkling neat and clean with glittering shops and cafes. I was thinking was this for real, can anything be so beautiful, I didn't know what's up next. Riyadh airport.

At the Duty free area, with Sachin I interacted much more than a smile, I guess we had coffee together, but still did not exchanged personal details.

Landing time at Riyadh airport. We came out of flight, enter the concourse........... Jaws dropped, eyes become two inch bigger, did not wanted it to blink, I couldn't believe, I was not dead and this is not heaven. Very high ceiling, if Abu Dhabi duty free was glittering this was 10x glittering. Huge massive golden palm trees, escalators, marble flooring, massive columns, bright lights, beautiful palm trees and sparkling clean.

Finished our immigration, Jacob was waiting for us, now I came to know that Sachin is also joining the same company. We got into Jacob's car, Toyota Camry, after traveling in Bombay Kali Pili taxi, this was unbelievable, huge leg space, comfortable seats (no metal spring piercing my bum) nice music. We came out of parking space to the main road, Jacob was greeting us and was and enquiring about the journey, but I was not at all interested in his talk, all I was looking was out of the window, blazing speed (140 kmph) the car was travelling, at this speed other cars goes zip and overtaking us, 6 lane roads, smooth roads and the huge massive sodium vapor lights which were lighting up the roads, looked like a golden necklace.

We reached our villa, where all the arrangements were made for us, on this same day there were another 15 odd staff from India were joining the company, me and Sachin were the only two non mallus, so it was decided that we share the room together. When we started our journey from Bombay the temperature was approx 20 degree and then all thru we did not had any idea what is outside temperature as we were traveling in air conditioned area, though when we landed in Riyadh airport they announced the outside temperature but we completely ignored it. As we were settling down slowly the cold started catching us, outside temperature was 4 degree and it was effing freezing, we immediately got into the quilt which was provided to us, though there was a bit of relief but it was still very cold, those days no mobile phones, no land line at home, no emails, no internet and no google, to communicate about our safety we were suppose to write letter, but it was so cold that our fingers were frozen and we could not hold the pen and write. Office was pretty warm, but when we reach our room it was very cold, assuming everyone must be facing the same, we did not discussed this issue with our colleague. This went on for a week, Thursday came, Sachin informed me that he has invited a friend. Sachin's friend came, he came with his daughter approx 7-8 months old, as soon as he came to our room he said "pretty cold over here" Sachin and me just looked at each other and spoke in our mind "effing 4 degree outside, will it not be cold you idiot" Sachin's friend just moved towards the window AC, switched it on and turn the knob to warm......... 15 seconds just 15 seconds the room was WARM, we just looked at each other with an strange idiotic look, friend was there for a hour and left, we send him off and came back to room and both of us speak together "DID YOU KNEW THAT?" "NO", and we were rolling on the floor laughing. Coming from a middle class family both of us never knew that AC do have a warm option too, all we assumed is AC is only for cooling, before coming to Saudi the impression we had was Saudi is a desert country and must be hot and we did not had a single warm cloths and Feb. being the peak of winter.

First week of our visit in Riyadh, we use to walk around the neighborhood to get familiar with place, but we couldn't see people walking around, all we could see people in cars, though it was decently dense residential area, after sometime we started getting bit tense on not seeing people on road, we discussed this with our next room occupant our senior architect Rudy, he said just wait for the weekend and he will take us to Batha where we can see whole lot of people and we will get sick of seeing them. Coming from Bombay and Sachin from Pune we were so use to see people, that too I was coming from Bombay when it curfew hit. Yes, Friday came Rudy took us to Batha a market place where we saw crowds of people, which brought somewhat relief to us.
There is whole lot of things to be shared about our Riyadh stay, Zarir street, Zarir book store, KFC, Batha, Olaiya, foot ball stadium, share taxi, long walks, eat all you can, Zia sir, Ganguly sir, Jacob, our boss and Mahavir.

That's how my Gulf journey started. 23 years still very fresh in memory.